Charles, the idea that we are interdividuals not individuals can be very helpful. We live in a web of relationships with others and so much or our imitating and desiring is good, natural and harmless. It is when we become rivalrous that we are putting ourselves in danger. We all think of changing our “I”, but the idea that we can do this implies that we are in control. The possibility of “letting go” and allowing ourself to be ushered into another way of being and relating by the Being who loves us unconditionally, is a very joyful prospect! We don’t have to beat ourselves up!