My reflection continues … I don’t disagree with saying who I am is produced by the social other using my neurons but it is deeply disturbing simply because my relationship from birth with my parents was full of limitations and suffering and the imitation which takes place is NOT mechanical. The only concrete hint I heard was that if our parents gaze at us with fright then that is transmitted and if instead their gaze is relaxed then it is communicated. It is quite a packed and oversimplified statement to say that we receive who we are through the eyes of others by mirroring and where does God come in if all this takes place between bodies? What are the parameters of the negotiating when we are so radically dependent? Why the verb negotiating?