A host wants their guests to feel at home, at ease and to enjoy the food or refreshments offered and in my mind to enter into a deeper friendship also through the conversation. A host normally does some preparatory work to make this possible and they don’t necessarily want the guest to know that they worked hard to make things relaxed and enjoyable. The guest has only to accept the offer of hospitality and follow the lead? of the host – well, I am groping because these are broad categories and guests can feel very comfortable or uncomfortable.