I think there is a difference between “a memory” and “memory”, Leigh, – the latter is the way our bodies are inducted through our imitative repetitions into being able to negotiate their being brought into being through other bodies. Bodies aren’t an illusion, though many particular ways of holding to them (i.e. selves) may very well be! It would probably be useful to you to look at what Sebastian Moore wrote about this in his last days, concerning his discovery of Eckert Tolle’s narrative of the loss of self. And there is also the ongoing discussion about Sam Harris’ new book on Andrew Sullivan’s website.