So, anonymous, why did the Other Other let things get so out of control? You’re a human parent and expected to make mistakes; what’s God’s excuse?

Mario, according to James you don’t independently have a desire to belong to a group which then caused you to ‘operate a bit differently’, rather, your desire to belong to a group was itself given to you by the group, by the other. It began with the anterior, prior existent group, not some autonomous ‘you’ desiring the group on your own.