I think that to become the man or woman God wants us to become, we need to put him in the center of our lives and listen. We can do this through prayer and by frequent sacrament and also by asking or questioning how our actions are in accordance with or in contradiction with the Gospels. Many times, this is not so apparent because the answers and not so obvious. We often are faced with moral dilemma, with teachings that are in tension with our lived experience and our reasoning. When this happens we need to listen not only to our spiritual advisors, but to others with similar perspectives and others with a different opinion. If we close off the conversation to only those with a similar perspective, we might not be listening as broadly or deeply enough. This does not mean we have to agree with a certain perspective, but we need to reflect upon them and pray for the guidance of God which will be given.