Don’t speak until you are spoken to.
So the idea is that the “I” which I feel is independent and real is actually a response the “word” of the social other. Add this to the idea that all the problems in my life have their roots in this sense of “I” and I can know that to solve my problems (stop my sinning), I must change the “I”. But this “I” is a response, so to change it I must listen for a new voice, something other than the social other to respond to.
Now I am speaking (typing) but these words come from the response to the social other so to find true joy, I guess I better shut up!
Thank you for your words Sheelah. I really appreciate them.