Andrew, you say “I think there is kind of martyrdom saga that is used as mortar to repair cracks of what passes as theology in my churchy circles” Yes, I think that this also tends to encourage an attitude where we go looking for suffering, when in effect Jesus tells us that “I have come that you will have life in all its fullness”. We should not go looking for suffering, we’ll experience it anyway, but this attitude stimulates, as you say, a martyrdom attitude.

And how right you are about our sufferings frequently being self inflicted. My personal experience of this always makes me realise that there is something that I have to learn, or an attitude or belief that I have to change.

Your last paragraph is wonderful Andrew!