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Sheelah
Moderator

What you say here Rich is quite lovely. Yes, the realisation of knowing that we are loved frees us from the need to be constantly affirmed in our identity, consequently much less susceptible to being controlling or needing to be right. And as you say, this is an evolutionary process, not an overnight ‘road to Damascus’, best handled by learning to listen carefully and reflectively to the other. I am sure you do this wonderfully!